Just Pondering a Bit...
This is for all the single women that have tons to offer but have yet to find the right person to give it to. This is basically where I'm at in my life and it really sucks to know what kind of person you want to be when in a relationship but no one to share it with. You would think that educated,articulate,well rounded, and down to hang with the the boys would be a hot commodity, Well apparently its not so hot :(
I guess my question is why does it seem like its becoming increasingly harder to find men that are ready to open up and that don't assume all women are out to hurt them. Men are some of the most sensitive beings but they love to put up that front to hide the fact that they are just as vulnerable as women if not more. I would really like to come into contact with someone that will really trust me and open up so that we can start to build some form of foundation. Whether its just destined to be a friendship or more.
I'm at a point where I have begun to make plans for the future in the event I don't find/come into contact with that person that I'm meant to be with. The really sad part of this is the fact that more and more Single Educated Black Women are falling into that category.
Are we the reason or is it due to the fact that some many women claim they want a good man, but when they find him they are unsatisfied and claim that he is too nice or does not have whatever material item they need at the moment. These are the same men that get dumped and cheated on and then eventually take on the attitude that they will get them before they get got.
Are we part of the problem or are we the catalyst to way to finding the solution.
I really don't have a solution for this problem/situation, just wanted to throw some random things out there before heading to bed.
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great questions! I stopped thinking about them because I refuse to even consider that by being well-rounded suddenly we are the catalyst of the problems....
or maybe it is because I never saw any problem with being single. I am not saying that you do :) not at all...I am only speaking from personal experience as many friends find that it's wrong that i am still single
i am being too picky
i am being selfish
i am this/ that
well...what about the disney happy ending is not for everyone? and they got married, had many kids and lived happily ever after..
what if the happy ending is just me, fulfilling my dreams, being happy...
i digress
It is hard to find a good person after all we're talking about someone that you'll spend the rest of your life with and we all know how HARD it is to live with someone. I am a hopeless romantic and strongly believe that there is someone for each and everyone of us :)
I enjoy being single, but I just wonder is it me or is it based on timing. I question if I'm too picky or if I'm expecting too much. Maybe its not meant for me. Who knows.Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I appreciate it.
hey there
I came back because there is a rerun of a tyra show episode about the very same topic you're discussing. It is single vs married women and I think by making it "versus",there is no understanding from each side because obviously the married women say single gals are too picky, wrong, bla bla bla and the single gals are on their defensive side...anyways..
all this to say you will find someone :)
I am a huuuge believer in the universe and timing.
Of course your concerns are very well. Do you goodnaijagirl? she has a blog where she discusses these issues as well.
As for expectations, they should be high. LoL> After all, we're talking about being with someone for better or worse, in sickness and health till death do us part so yes ma'am..never think your expectations are too high. Mine are quite high and I refuse to settle for less:)
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